BE KIND TO YOURSELF...

Being kind to yourself is one of the best things you can do for yourself.


Guilt...
We often neglect this act for many reasons but one I've noticed is that we feel guilty. Guilty of being happy around others that aren't or guilty of being afraid of other peoples judgments. Why? Why do we do that to ourselves? We should embrace our happiness and release that fear we have of other people. 

Putting the guilt aside and owning your happiness can be hard but believing you deserve and have earned that happiness is such a great achievement in itself.

Loving yourself...
I was once talking to a very good friend of mine on a day that wasn't so good for me. A bit of self-loathing was going on and she was there to give me a bit of a confidence boost. She suggested that I look in the mirror every morning and say something that I liked about myself. Obviously I thought she was mad and it would definitely make me look mad talking to myself in the mirror. The next day I was standing at the mirror and thought I might give it a go. I said what I liked about myself and I actually smiled which was weird for me because I never smile at myself in the mirror. I started doing this every morning and throughout the day I felt just a bit more happy. It's such a small thing to add to your lifestyle but it worked. You don't need to be specific, it can be a tiny thing you like about yourself, your hair, your makeup that day, your smile or even a personality trait.
There are of course days where i'm going to feel a little shitty but knowing what you like about yourself is such a great way to be kind to your mind. 

In fact no, don't just say something you like about yourself. Say what you LOVE about yourself. I don't want you to like your hair, i want you to LOVE you hair. Don't just like the fact that your a kind person, LOVE that you're a kind person. 

Having a bad day?...
On a bad day I just want to be by myself and sleep but I have realised that that's not healthy and I should be doing everything I can to pick myself up again. Seeing friends, baking cookies, taking a relaxing candle lit bath with a book and even researching trips that you want to take. These are just a few suggestions you can do to pick yourself up and get back on your feet. 

Be kind to others...
Making someones day can have an effect on your day as well. There's something about making someone smile that makes us smile and I find that so beautiful. Texting your friend a simple 'Have a good day' will automatically put a smile on their face or if you know someone that is having a rough time, try and motivate them and let them know that they aren't on their own. Is your friend not loving work at the minute? Ask them how their day was and if they need to rant to you, listen to them, discuss solutions with them and be there for them.

Being kind to strangers is always one of my favourite things. You don't know what kind of day they are having or what they are going through in life so making them smile could change that, maybe not permanently but for that brief second. Smiling or even a small compliment can stick with someone all day and when they think about it they will smile. Small kind gestures to anyone can make you feel good and I believe in the saying 'treat people how you want to be treated'.

Laughing is the best medicine...
How fun is laughing and joking around. Always take time out of your day to have a little giggle and have a bit of fun. I'm not going to go into the health benefits of laughing but if you google it you will definitely find a bunch of facts about laughing helping your health.


Let me know if this post helped you or gave you a little boot to be more kind to yourself. I highly recommend the mirror trick, it might seem silly at first but when you get into it and start hyping yourself up it's such a confidence boost. 


Love ya x